What is it that you value? They seem like two core principles that sit across each other on a beam balance, both acting as counterweight to the other. Everyone, at some point of their lives, have definitely asked themselves this age old philosophical question, especially when evaluating a person, which one matters more?
On one hand, I appreciate materialistic beauty, tangible things that are pleasing to the eyes. Like any normal, healthy hormone raging teenager, i have my fair share of lust and desires, the yearning of flesh and contact. I don’t dismiss my love for a voluptuous figure and aesthetics that i find physically attractive. Shallow as it implies, it is but a part of me and i will not bullshit myself and proclaim to be a virtuous white knight of the abstinence clan
On the other hand, I too appreciate a beautiful soul (stupid cliche). There are tons of definitions for that, but in this particular context, I’m referring to the personality of an individual. It is endlessly fascinating to mull over another person’s character. To know what they laugh, what they cry over. To know what they feel passionate for, their hopes and dreams. Having them open up and speak candidly about things that are close to their hearts
To pick at their brains, find out all of their wonderful idiosyncrasies and quirks. Discovering all this, slowly, through time, through commitment. This long and arduous process, isn’t this the part where people fall in love? At least, this is where my belief lies, that the inception of a profound love takes time to nurture, to nourish and develop
Love from the heart, not the loins, easier said than done but if you can be honest with yourself 100%, i honestly think you’ll be a happier person